I'm curious here,
@MoonlightShadow , I'm not sure what constitutes as a
disaster, but how can you consider the fact that your wife is a "disaster", and accepting
failure on
your part? You cannot control your wife, as she's a separate, autonomous, human being. Her shortcomings are
her problems-- you may not
like her issues, but they are her issues, and you can not take responsibility for somebody else's actions.
Oh.. like she cannot be told gently. Example :
*i put a spoon among the spatula, knife and other kitchen utensils at the kitchen*
Me : "Hey, i put spoon here, because whenever i cook, i need to taste it"
*tomorrow, the spoon is gone, she put it back among other spoon and fork on dining table*
*this cycle repeating for several times until i get angry and she never put back the spoon on dining table*
Yea.. i have to angry to make her listen to me, it's tiring. Another thing is she never supportive to what i do, even my business. There's many more of course, okay i'll tell you one more.. like easy things become difficult when she is the one doing it. Example :
Me : "you're in supermarket? Get ricotta for me, i need it"
Her : "which one is ricotta?"
Me : "just read the package. Ricotta"
Her : "oh the one with purple packaging.."
Like duh.. read the package, not memorizing it by packaging color
I accept her as part of my failure because when i marry her i have some options. I fail to fully assess her