may be if i lose weight and start spending time on my looks, it might make a difference but i don't have the motivation and can't afford to spend on beauty things. everything needs money and i don't have it hunMaybe you need to inspect your current situation and how you relate to potential relationships. Not saying that you need to change but perhaps there are aspects of how you show up or what you are accepting that may need to change to bring you to the right one.