How do I stop someone who wouldn't listen?

[MoonlightShadow]

i tried
she said i was controlling. i couldn't do much after that and she kept pulling away

Where is she now?

 

[Kaynil]

lol when you put it that way, she sounds really nasty

There's a reason she sounds that way. I don't know all the details but that is how she is coming across and this is how what you've said made me feel.
She is guilt tripping you. Using your care for her and our desire to patch things up to control you. The fact that she is aware that you don't have that kind of money and still pins you getting it as a testament of your love for her is nauseating. She is not acting like someone who cares for your well being, and at the same time she's demanding you prove your care for her in her own terms to your own detriment.

I am glad to read you are coming to terms she's almost 36 years old. You can't help who doesn't want to be helped. It is painful, but I think it is best you stand your ground. You can still leave a window open for reconciliation should she ever knock on your door, but don't take her emotional manipulation. If she is being taken for a ride by someone else and that's why she's desperate for the money, I truly hope she finds out and realize who their real allies are sooner rather than later.