you sound really practical and thank you for that dav
i am 44 now. some people think it's too old to change one's life and some others think it's not too late.
as for me, i am at a standstill lol. i don't know how to go on and going through the life. i feel like i made lots of bad choices and kept people away and now i don't have anyone around me, who would want to share my life with.
sometimes i want to move to a different place or country and start over but i know some people here and i might lose their support and could never meet new people, if it's a possibility too lol
i am just a small time chef who barely get by and i often get worried about not having anyone in my old life, if i ever get there. i shouldn't be talking so much lol and i don't expect anything but just want to be heard and hear the encouragement.
thank you for the words dav.
why would you have to move? plans on getting married or kids?
Thanks you
Yeah idk people do say that, my ex actually said the same thing to me when we were together.
Think its a mixture of how i was raised / environment, i had to mature early on in my life compared to other people.
Still did stupid things as all kids, but i also had to remember study / work hard otherwise i would be homeless and i live on an island which is expensive as hell.
Like NY / London level and salary's don't match.
No problem at all, i would meet up with your friends go out to a few places from time to time. often easy to get talking to other people.
Have a friend who was in a really long term relationship, now he tries to go out most weekends either on his own or with friends to events to meet new people and find partner, it can be difficult but if you dont shoot your shots nothing will hit right.
Yeah chef life is hard, my family helped managed a Hotel.
I know the industry struggles too, i didnt do chef work.
But have done waitering since i was 14 or 15 i think.
Massive functions of over 100 people 3/4 course stuff, its very tiring physically, long hours etc
Cheffing probably even harder working in the heat for like 12 hours
Yeah it is kinda scary, if you try something im sure it will work out. i doubt people would fully abandon you on your choices, can always keep in touch on whatever you do, visit etc
People always needs cheffs. do whats best for you really and then build on that.
not yet married or kids, need to find the one really, on this island there isn't too many people and not too many things to do.
So it is harder than the average town or city in another country, there is only 65k people where i live and lots of the population is retirement age or aging.
so yeah makes it slightly more difficult. There is lots of young people still, but odds of finding is still harder.
thats 1 thing,
The other things is property, renting isn't really an option as its really expensive, i should have have had something if everything worked out but now as im currently on my own have to go somewhere cheaper,unless things change in a year or so.
Buying is also very expensive, i could get loan for a flat, but its tiny and low quality if you want anything kind of acceptable looking and ok space.
1 bed is over £300k which is crazy really can get slightly lower price range but everything will be bad+ there is shortage of property to buy because since covid lots of people started to move here from other countrys big citys.
