[18+]My friend wants to cheat...

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i really don't know what else to phrase lol.
my friend never enjoyed the intimate time when her husband and she kept saying that but her husband doesn't care.
now the other day she told me, once in her life she just wants to experience what an enjoyable $ex feels like.
i told her just get rid of her husband first but she told me, her family is against her leaving the marriage and whenever she brings it up, they threaten to cut ties with her and the financial support. she depends on this financial support and her husband never made much
i told her i want no part of it but now i feel guilty. should i say anything to her husband about this? what if she cheats and never tells anyone? what if she let go of that idea? i just can't make my mind about this
 
Having been down a similar road (of not caring for intimate time), I'm going to say what experience has taught me. She needs to have an honest conversation with her partner. That would be her husband. This is between her and her husband. Communication is crucial for any relationship to work. I would never condone dishonesty at any level in a relationship of any magnitude.

Now, this conversation may become a bit too embarrassing for anybody beyond your friend, but has she explored the world of kink? BESM. I'd browse FetLife for discussions, examples, recommendations....I wouldn't put myself out there as in advertising though. There's a LOT of freaky stuff and people out there, however, most people acknowledge the consent rule at least. At any rate, it's possible that your friend doesn't even know what she's looking for, like can she explicitly define good intimacy? (Geez, I sound like Dr. Ruth here....). She may have to do some informational based research to see if anything sounds/ looks appealing, and then maybe have a discussion with her partner....her husband and try some things.

Now, I know that some people can get all bent out of shape talking about intimacy, but I recommend that she try this direct, honest route first. If her husband is not receptive at all, then perhaps the relationship is doomed, and the two of them should seek counseling at the very least, and maybe begin looking into other options, to include divorce. Your friend may also want to start learning some skills now so that she's not quite so dependent on other people.

Trust me, I know what it's like to be dependent on others. It totally sucks, and when I learned something that I could do on my own to generate some income, it was literally life changing.
 
Cheat huh.. lol
I mean.. if she only want enjoyable sex then she can satisfy herself with uh.. you know..
But if she wants quality and intimate time with full of passion and love then go ahead.. divorce and find new partner, dont listen to anyone.. it's her own marriage
 
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Cheating sucks, and it's terrible she wants to cheat on her husband. She needs to talk to her husband, in fact they both need to go see a couple's therapist to talk through the issues. Or she needs to find a way to get income and leave him, if it doesn't work out.
 
Senkusha said:
Having been down a similar road (of not caring for intimate time), I'm going to say what experience has taught me. She needs to have an honest conversation with her partner. That would be her husband. This is between her and her husband. Communication is crucial for any relationship to work. I would never condone dishonesty at any level in a relationship of any magnitude.

Now, this conversation may become a bit too embarrassing for anybody beyond your friend, but has she explored the world of kink? BESM. I'd browse FetLife for discussions, examples, recommendations....I wouldn't put myself out there as in advertising though. There's a LOT of freaky stuff and people out there, however, most people acknowledge the consent rule at least. At any rate, it's possible that your friend doesn't even know what she's looking for, like can she explicitly define good intimacy? (Geez, I sound like Dr. Ruth here....). She may have to do some informational based research to see if anything sounds/ looks appealing, and then maybe have a discussion with her partner....her husband and try some things.

Now, I know that some people can get all bent out of shape talking about intimacy, but I recommend that she try this direct, honest route first. If her husband is not receptive at all, then perhaps the relationship is doomed, and the two of them should seek counseling at the very least, and maybe begin looking into other options, to include divorce. Your friend may also want to start learning some skills now so that she's not quite so dependent on other people.

Trust me, I know what it's like to be dependent on others. It totally sucks, and when I learned something that I could do on my own to generate some income, it was literally life changing.
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that never crossed my mind.
she could be into sm. i should talk to her about it and if she is into that, may be this can be resolved easily and counselling can help as well
MoonlightShadow said:
Cheat huh.. lol
I mean.. if she only want enjoyable sex then she can satisfy herself with uh.. you know..
But if she wants quality and intimate time with full of passion and love then go ahead.. divorce and find new partner, dont listen to anyone.. it's her own marriage
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that's true
i don't want her to ruin her peaceful life just for some pleasure. this is killing me
Elvis said:
Don't tell anyone. You heard a secret, forget about it. Refuse to give her any advice on this matter.
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it's hard to forget elv.
i don't want her to ruin it.
Ravenfreak said:
Cheating sucks, and it's terrible she wants to cheat on her husband. She needs to talk to her husband, in fact they both need to go see a couple's therapist to talk through the issues. Or she needs to find a way to get income and leave him, if it doesn't work out.
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i know and it's not a joke.
don't want her to ruin her life but i don't know what's going on in her head
 
Do I know her?
This is not healthy for both of them. It's better to get some counselling, possibly couples counselling.
 
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