Why do people care about toxic family?

DarkAngel

DarkAngel

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sometimes i just don't get it lol
why do we care a lot? i know my niece is toxic but i want her in my life.
why do i feel this way?
can anybody relate?
 
I think it's because society tells us we should be there for our families no matter what even if they're toxic. I don't believe that myself though, you're much better off cutting out toxic people even if they are family. If they can't be decent people, you don't need that negativity.
 
Ravenfreak said:
I think it's because society tells us we should be there for our families no matter what even if they're toxic. I don't believe that myself though, you're much better off cutting out toxic people even if they are family. If they can't be decent people, you don't need that negativity.
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that's true
but people around you would always remind you off of them and try to make you reach out to them
 
It's like an identity crisis. If people who knows you the best can't approve of you, it's hard to digest that truth but you need to understand that, those people don't deserve you. It's just as simple as that.
 
Welp I have a dilemma now. I haven't talked nor seen my grandmother or aunt in 15 years. I went no contact mainly with my grandmother because of her views. She's a die hard Catholic, the one that supports Trump and is against anything other than traditional values. My aunt has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and now I want to break the silence mainly for her. I don't know how I'm going to tackle this one though. I'm very different now at 35 than I was at 20. (I'm trans and have been transitioning for five years now. Can't really hide that fact.) I want to get back into contact with them, like I said mainly for my aunt because I have a feeling she would be more accepting than my grandmother ever would. Plus this would be a huge bombshell to drop on both of them since they haven't seen me in a very long time and had no clue about my transition on top of my aunt being sick. So now I actually want to get back into contact with my toxic family member who I cut out. I really should have kept in contact with my Aunt at least and I feel bad about it...
 
Ravenfreak said:
Welp I have a dilemma now. I haven't talked nor seen my grandmother or aunt in 15 years. I went no contact mainly with my grandmother because of her views. She's a die hard Catholic, the one that supports Trump and is against anything other than traditional values. My aunt has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and now I want to break the silence mainly for her. I don't know how I'm going to tackle this one though. I'm very different now at 35 than I was at 20. (I'm trans and have been transitioning for five years now. Can't really hide that fact.) I want to get back into contact with them, like I said mainly for my aunt because I have a feeling she would be more accepting than my grandmother ever would. Plus this would be a huge bombshell to drop on both of them since they haven't seen me in a very long time and had no clue about my transition on top of my aunt being sick. So now I actually want to get back into contact with my toxic family member who I cut out. I really should have kept in contact with my Aunt at least and I feel bad about it...
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that's a real tough situation to be in.
it's hard to enforce these boundaries when people are really sick.
take a decision that you won't regret later hun
 
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