I am going to lose some of my family soon... ;_;

Claraviolet

Claraviolet

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I don't know where to begin....I am truly sad. I am going to lose one of my family members soon.

I don't trust people easily but I trusted them. They made me believe in myself... They made me happy, laugh and then I got to know that...I was never their emotional support.

I have communicated everything from the very beginning and they made me believe in the future... But.. It's hard to think everything is just an act... Because they were never happy.

This is breaking my heart because there were no hints whatsoever or may be i don't see them. My go to communication is always verbal and I have always mentioned that to people and family around me.
I can't read between the lines and I want something to be said out loud. Life is all about communication and trying to understand people around us. Where did everything go wrong?

If this was couple of years ago,I wouldn't have thought of it much... But now...I feel like my world is shifting and I am lost.

I try to hide this from people around me but... It's just hard.... ;_;
What did I do to deserve all this?
 
if they are family, people will come around. you are a good person clarry even though naive so don't worry and god will always do good for you
 
I am so sorry you are going through this. You are a strong woman and God has ways we can't understand. In one or two years, you won't feel hurt. If they understand you, you won't lose them. Don't think too much and take care of yourself
 
Rinko said:
I am so sorry you are going through this. You are a strong woman and God has ways we can't understand. In one or two years, you won't feel hurt. If they understand you, you won't lose them. Don't think too much and take care of yourself
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people don't see eye to eye.
i have lost contact with my niece and it will hurts me but now i think, if someone were to leave you, may be you have someone else in the future, who loves you and cherishes you. i think we just need to believe that and it will happen.
 
I'm very sorry you're going through this. I had to cut off a cousin who I thought was respectful of me as a person, she always used to welcome me and my wife with open arms and never once used the wrong name for me. But she's done a complete turn around and no longer respects me and was spouting lots of nasty things about me and another family member. It sucks, and I'm not going to lie it still bothers me even months later. But I hope you can find peace.
 
@Ravenfreak

i am so sorry to hear that.

either she has been wanting to do this from the start which makes her a vile snake or something happened and she might have received the wrong information causing the misunderstanding.

whatever it is, instead of communicating with you, she chose to attack you which makes her no better than an animal.

why do you think people can communicate lol

so sorry and glad that you cut her off. what do you mean by calling you by the wrong name?
 
DarkAngel said:
@Ravenfreak

i am so sorry to hear that.

either she has been wanting to do this from the start which makes her a vile snake or something happened and she might have received the wrong information causing the misunderstanding.

whatever it is, instead of communicating with you, she chose to attack you which makes her no better than an animal.

why do you think people can communicate lol

so sorry and glad that you cut her off. what do you mean by calling you by the wrong name?
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This makes a lot of sense. I had to cut people off before when they kept belittling me. Even though communication is for humans and most of the problems can be resolved through it, people fail to do that.
 
I want to add something more. You can't lose family but what you can lose is pretend family. These people make you trust them, make you believe they are genuine and abandon you when they stop getting any benefits from you. So if they are real family, they will be with you but if they are pretend family, it's better not to have them.
 
DarkAngel said:
@Ravenfreak

i am so sorry to hear that.

either she has been wanting to do this from the start which makes her a vile snake or something happened and she might have received the wrong information causing the misunderstanding.

whatever it is, instead of communicating with you, she chose to attack you which makes her no better than an animal.

why do you think people can communicate lol

so sorry and glad that you cut her off. what do you mean by calling you by the wrong name?
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I'm a trans guy and surprisingly she always called me by the name I chose after coming out. She never deadnamed me which threw me off even more when she started spewing transphobic things about me and another family member who is gender non conforming. (It's more complicated with my Uncle though the other person in my family since he doesn't really care if he goes by his birth name or his chosen name or pronouns. I care though and don't want to be called by the wrong pronouns or name.) I usually am weary about telling people I'm trans since I'm not sure how they'd react in this world, but I feel comfortable doing so here. :)
 
Ravenfreak said:
I'm a trans guy and surprisingly she always called me by the name I chose after coming out. She never deadnamed me which threw me off even more when she started spewing transphobic things about me and another family member who is gender non conforming. (It's more complicated with my Uncle though the other person in my family since he doesn't really care if he goes by his birth name or his chosen name or pronouns. I care though and don't want to be called by the wrong pronouns or name.) I usually am weary about telling people I'm trans since I'm not sure how they'd react in this world, but I feel comfortable doing so here. :)
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no one should be judged based on who they are. i get a lot of hate for being a large black woman but i try not to let it get to me.
we are all humans and we shouldn't allow ourselves to be treated any less. i am sorry you had to go through that hun. your beautiful heart and brave soul. i will pray for your happiness. you deserve the world
 
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